Design the life you both want.

Are you and your partner not on the same page about an upcoming life change? Are you stuck in the same conflict with each of you trying to get your way?

Coupledom helps:

  • Tired parents needing more ease in life

  • Folks debating whether or not to have a child

  • Those navigating a life change

Rather than an either-or mentality that leaves you both unfulfilled, Coupledom helps individuals and couples uncover new options to create a life you’ll love.

Hi, I’m Sami.

With over 10,000 hours of design thinking and organizational change experience with Fortune 500 companies and nonprofits, I help couples be proactive rather than reactive in pursuing the life they both want during times of change.

Change Examples

You might be experiencing one or multiple changes at once. Review the different types of transitions or life stages below to help you explore which areas of coaching would be most helpful for you.

  • As you lay a strong foundation for your relationship, you’'ll want to focus on shared goals and dreams, managing finances, planning your family, exploring traditions, all while deepening your emotional and physical connection.

  • You’ll be exploring locations, evaluating finances, and considering long-term implications for your lifestyle and family. You’ll want to get aligned on your priorities and needs to ensure this transition is supportive for both of you.

  • This period involves adapting to new roles and responsibilities, focusing on financial stability, managing stress, and supporting each other’s growth. You’re both making strategic decisions to enhance your careers and ensure fulfilling outcomes.

Transitions

  • Knowing if and when to have your first or an additional child as a couple is a big deal. Are you both ready or just one of you? What do each of you want to have in place before starting a family? What level of effort are you willing to put in if medical intervention is needed?

  • Amid juggling the endless tasks of keeping a new human alive, supporting each other will be key to managing evolving responsibilities and ensuring both of you cope well. You’ll want clarity on roles, expectations, values, and community support and how to manage stress.

  • Having school aged children is a different ball game. As their independence increases, so does your own. How do you want to spend this new found time? What new rhythms can be put in place so everyone in the family contributes and gets their needs met?

Parenthood Stages

  • Midlife can feel like a moment where we ask ourselves, “is this it?” The sense of possibility might be blocked by the daily grind of life. This is a powerful moment to explore what you truly want and what steps you can take as a couple to come alive together.

  • With the rising independence of children, you may be rediscovering personal interests, aligning them with shared goals, and nurturing your relationship. Through hobbies or travel you'll focus on enriching your lives together and deepening your bond during this transition.

  • This life shift can bring mixed emotions- excitement, anxiety, and even tension. You’ll want to address potential challenges, realign your goals as a couple, and discover ways to stay connected and supportive during this new phase of life.

Life Stages

Here’s how we design your next chapter in 5 steps: 


1. Set a Vision

2. Inner reflection

3. Explore Blocks

4. Create New Possibilities

5. Evaluate & Plan

Coaching Services

I coach individuals and couples to a design a life you love. Coaching packages are flexible and based on a $175 hourly rate.

Tune-Up: 3hrs $525

Ideal if you are looking for focused time to get on the same page for a specific conflict or navigating a change.

Reset: 6hrs- $1,050

Ideal if you are wanting space to reflect and evolve your thinking over time to uncover your shared path forward.

Deep Dive: 9hrs- $1,575

Ideal if you are going through a more complex or multiple changes at once or you simply want more time to unpack what is present for you.

You can also choose to use all of your coaching hours in the same week for a Relationship Sprint, as featured in the SF Standard!

What Couples are Saying

  • "We achieved something we couldn't have done ourselves. Sami guided us with care, intelligence, kindness and humor."

    -Ezra

  • "Thank you Sami for making the Sprint weekend such a fantasic experience and helping us come to a place that feels so right. "

    -Penny

  • "Wow, wow, wow, wow. We're so excited about this! The outcome was much better than expected."

    -Jared

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