Design the life you both want.

Life is full of big next steps: children, career shifts, buying a home, moving, mid-life, retiring and beyond.

How can you align these pivotal moments to what you truly want when there are so many things standing in your way? Whether it's your job, endless chores, kids, aging parents or your partner wanting different things, your own aspirations may feel out of reach.

Rather than sacrifice your needs, let’s design your relationship to ensure you both soar.

Hi, I’m Sami.

With over 10,000 hours of group facilitation and consulting experience for Fortune 500 companies and nonprofits, I help couples be proactive rather than reactive in pursuing the life they both want.

Here’s how we design your lives in 4 steps: 


1. We figure out your life goals.

2. We identify what’s holding you back. 

3. We make a roadmap and timeline that will get you to your goals.

4. I keep you on track by holding you accountable.

Coaching Services

Tune-Up: 3hrs $525

Ideal if you are looking for focused time to get on the same page before, during or after a life change occurs.

Reset: 6hrs- $1,050

Ideal if you are wanting space to reflect and evolve your thinking over time to uncover your shared path forward.

Deep Dive: 9hrs- $1,575

Ideal if you are going through a more complex or multiple changes at once or you simply want more time to unpack what is present for you.

You can also choose to use all of your coaching hours in the same week for a Relationship Sprint, as featured in the SF Standard!

What Couples are Saying

  • "We achieved something we couldn't have done ourselves. Sami guided us with care, intelligence, kindness and humor."

    -Ezra

  • "Thank you Sami for making the Sprint weekend such a fantasic experience and helping us come to a place that feels so right. "

    -Penny

  • "Wow, wow, wow, wow. We're so excited about this! The outcome was much better than expected."

    -Jared

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